Define friends. Are they a bunch of people who are always by your side? Always be there when you need help? Or are they just some people who made “friends” because of their own selfish needs? I sometimes wonder do people make friends because of a motive. Or is it because they are lonely? To me, it is hard to define friends.

I know of some people, who make friends because of school work. They get close to you just to make use of you. They ask you for their reports and discuss about work but they actually don’t care about you. They only care about their grades. Once they achieve their motive, they stay away from you. Are these people friends?

I know of some people, who make friends because they are lonely. When you are alone, you ask for their accompaniment. When they are lonely, you just leave them aside. Sometimes, I do admit, I am one of them.

I know of some people, who make friends because of their own needs. Once they get what they want, they just leave you. Or they even betray you once they don’t need you. When they need you, they are nice to you. When they don’t need you, they ignore you.

It is just scary to think of friends in such a way. But I think everyone do encounter people like that. And it gets disgusting when I think of such people around me. Sometimes even if you treat them as a friend, they don’t. They treat you like a puppet; play around with you.

Maybe friends do have to give and take. Friends sacrifice for you; you must also make sacrifices for them. When they listen to your troubles, you must also listen to theirs. Sometimes when you say you understand how your friend really feels, you actually don’t. I agree to this a lot. I am one of those who always say I understand, but in fact I don’t actually quite understand. Maybe it is hard for me. People like to have a listening ear, but when do you really become a listening ear to another? Maybe I am just not good in consoling people. So if I were to listen to their problems, I would be lost. How should I respond to them? I am not good at words.

Real friends are those who really stand by your side. Never grumble because of your little faults.

I must admit, I am not a good friend.